“Quit! Give up! You’re beaten!” they shout at me, and plead. “There’s just too much against you now, this time you can’t succeed.”
“Quit! Give up! You’re beaten!” they still shout in my face. But another voice within me says, “GET UP AND WIN THE RACE!”
How many times have you given up, thrown the towel in and just let your dreams or goals go wayside? New Year’s is right around the corner and often a time where people set goals. I set goals all year round and push and push and push till I succeed. Every goal I have set has been work. There is no luck. Statistics show that about 84% of people have no specific goals, 13% of people have goals but haven’t committed to writing them down and only 3% of people have clear, specific written goals with plans to accomplish them.
Three ways that I have found worked for my success at reaching my goals are:
– Having a realistic goal that is specific and not too many at one time- for example: “I am going to lose weight,” is too broad and unspecific. “I am going to replace one of my daily meals with a healthy alternative (a mixed green salad with 6 oz lean protein source 400-600 calories).
– Surrounding myself with like-minded individuals and not being afraid to make mistakes. Mistakes are important in learning and being successful. Family and friends who are supportive and encouraging, cheering each other on allow for greater growth and success with reaching a goal.
– Mindset may be by far the breaking point of reaching a goal – Love this one! MINDSET has been huge in my life! It is so important to be positive and have positive thoughts. Include positive affirmations into your daily schedule. Meditation is also very helpful. Don’t allow guilt or shame to be the reason why you are reaching for a goal.
On the way home from evening soccer practice my youngest son called and spoke to his sister on the phone and told her to tell me to start to make something for him to eat before he went to bed but no oatmeal. Well, she neglected to mention the oatmeal part and I knew he liked oatmeal before he goes to bed so I had oatmeal on the stove when he got home. Boy was he not happy when he got home. He loudly said, “I am not eating the oatmeal! I said I didn’t want oatmeal! You have to make me something else!” He jumped up on the counter and knocked over my glass of water and ice that I had just filled up. I am working hard at paying extra attention on how I react to daily events- experiences. Not labeling them as a good thing or a bad thing just something that has happened. I could have yelled at him or raised my voice and said, “How many times have I told you not to climb on the counters? Now look what you did! You made a mess and spilled water everywhere!” That would have definately changed the evenings outcome and not is a positive way. Instead I just looked at him and took an exaggerated slow, deep breath thinking about how I wanted to handle the situation, it was late, we were both tired, and before I could respond he said, “Oops, sorry, I spilled something. I just wanted to be closer to you.” I said that is ok. I can get more water. We can clean this mess up together. Would you like to use the seat of your pants or a towel?” He giggled and said, “A towel, I will get it, help me down please.” Down he went and he cleaned up the water. I asked him if he would like some apple cut up alongside his oatmeal and he said yes. When he finished and was in bed I spent some time lying next to him being closer to him. Snuggle time with my seven year old.
Life is 10% of what happens to you and 90% of how you react to it.
Did you know the average person only has about two weeks of savings before they lose everything? So if you are the average person and you lose your job tomorrow, get injured or are diagnosed with an illness that may require you to leave your job, in two weeks you will lose your house, your car, your possessions, and what would you feed yourself or your family! This is the most common stress, financial stress.
Stress comes in many forms and is so detrimental to ones health is it scary. Stress will make a healthy person unhealthy. You can be eating some of the healthiest foods but if you are stressed you will make yourself unhealthy. As a whole our society is filled with stress and anxiety. It is the biggest illness. We are confronted with stress all the time whether it is meeting deadlines, paying bills, or juggling childcare….this “fight or flight” response is often stuck in the “on” mode. It does not have to be!
Most people are not dealing with their stress. When the average person is under stress they actually spend more time looking at the problem than looking for a solution. This often leads to depression and addictions. They will try to hide the problem with alcohol, food, and/or pharmaceuticals just to numb themselves. What if there is a better way? What if there is a solution?
What if you could improve your health and in about 90 days not have to worry about finances? What if you could skyrocket your energy and feel the best health ever? What would that be worth to you?
If you are serious about a change get in touch with me! I may very well have the solution you are looking for!
I love me a Monday! That is not the case for most. Are you feeling that dread of Monday? Your stomach hurts and you just can’t wait until hump day to remind yourself you are halfway through your work week. Better yet you can’t wait to get to Friday to get to happy hour to numb the body so you forget about how you despised every day that week of having to go to your job.
Guess what? There is a better way!
You may want to look at a few different things. Your co-workers. Your pay. Your boss. The routine work. Or maybe the traffic. Write down the things that are making you dread your Monday. Then you will want to tackle them one at a time. Maybe there is something you are to learn from your job. Maybe the feeling is temporary. Or maybe the feeling has been going on for a long time and you need out. Don’t just quit, have a plan. You may not realize this but opportunities are revealed to you all the time. Over and over again. Don’t think a two by four is going to wack you in the head and say “This is an Opportunity!” You have to be open and aware. You are asking and the universe is delivering. Wake up! If someone offers you an opportunity check it out even if you aren’t so sure it is for you. Doors are opening all the time and if you don’t see what is inside you are doing yourself a disservice. You never know it may just be what you are looking for.
Or you can choose to keep going down the same path because it is familiar and easy and you don’t want a change bad enough to actually do something about it.